Often couples look for someone other than themselves to blame for challenges they may experience in their relationship. It’s “never always” the other person’s fault. If you want to make your relationship as good as it can be for you, there are some things you must be willing to do. See below for five of those.
To keep your relationship, you must be willing to:
- See the real issue for what it truly is. Remove the blindfolds. Denying the problem does not help change the problem. See it. Acknowledge it. Address it. Sometimes it takes one person to do this before both are on the same page. One person can make a change.
- Decide on a course of action. When couples experience challenges in the relationship, they often think the problem will go away by itself over time. If nothing changes, guess what? Nothing changes! Once you become aware that something is off and needs tweaking, adjusting, or fixing, decide what that is; agree on it and move forward.
- Don’t make your happiness the responsibility of the other person. Ultimately, even though the relationship consists of two individuals, each is responsible for their own happiness. This is too much of a heavy weight and burden to place on someone else. You know better for you than anyone else. The relationship is a partnership. You must work together to make it work.
- Change what’s not working. It’s a no brainer to keep doing something that no longer works for you. When you know something isn’t working, change something. Anything. Any change will also bring about another change. Be willing to keep revising until it’s working for the both of you.
- Make it a win-win. If your relationship is not a win for the both of you, it means that someone is losing something. That’s not good. A loss for one is ultimately a loss for both in some way. Keep working at it until the relationship, as a whole, is a winning one.
There’s plenty you can do to save and keep your relationship when it’s going in a direction you don’t want it to go. The five just listed will definitely get you started in the direction of salvaging and improving upon what you have now.
Just as we as individuals continue to grow and evolve over time in our lives, so does our relationships. They are in need of making adjustments as we are. It begins with assessing the situation and then doing what comes next to feel good about you. Thereby making it better for the relationship.
I hope this was helpful. It’s all about having the willingness to do what you can do to help it work.
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