The needs of one relationship could be very different from the needs of another. It depends on the two individuals in the relationship and the clarity they have of those needs. Never judge or compare yourself, your life, or your relationship to or with someone else’s.
You and your relationship are unique and specific to you. It’s important for you to be clear on your own personal needs and those of your relationship. When you neglect either, there are consequences. It’s not always clear up front what they are, and you may not even be aware of them until it’s a problem.
You can help this by understanding what the needs are in your relationship. The way you find this out is to first know what your own are, and then “ask” your mate what his is. No mind guessing or trying to figure it out. You can get it wrong and create other issues. Just ASK!
Anytime you or your relationship doesn’t get the attention it needs, it means it is lacking something. It may be something vital, so don’t ignore it. But you wouldn’t know it unless you were paying attention. And in order to pay attention, you must know and understand what you’re looking for.
This clarity begins with you first, and then with your partner, so that it can transfer to the relationship. Then, and only then can you give it what it needs. This not only shows that you care, but that it’s also important to you. Who doesn’t want to know how important they are to someone?
You’ve heard the saying, “people don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care”. You see, you can say all day long how much you care about someone, but if they don’t know it or feel it, how much will it really matter? Not much.
So, make sure you give a little extra something to your relationship and give it the attention it needs, especially during this next week as we celebrate “Happy Valentine’s Day”. Enjoy yours.
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