Often women find themselves in relationship after relationship, only to find that the guys are always the same. They change faces, styles of clothing, and a few other things here and there, but they are pretty much the same person; including the experiences with them. So, what was the problem?

You were the common denominator in each one.

This reminds me of a quote by George Bernard Shaw. He said “Life isn’t about finding yourself. It’s about creating yourself.”

This says to me that if you aren’t clear about who you are, or who you want to be, this lack of clarity will show up around you in some way. In this case, your relationships. It’s not always the other person that needs to change. Sometimes other people show up to help you change for your own sake.

If you keep running away from what shows up instead of stopping and looking in the mirror to see what’s there, you’ll probably keep having the same repeated experience over and over again. Sometimes it’s not until you look at what you’re getting and evaluate if it’s working for you, that change will happen.

If what you want, or think you want isn’t what’s showing up for you, some things to consider might be:

• Clarity on what you really want, with a picture of what it looks like
• Determine who it is you truly want to be
• Create a new persona or avatar of a new you that gets you excited
• Describe what the new you would do, how you behave, look, and feel
• Think of some things you can do now to start this change

These are just a few things to consider that can support you in getting the experiences you want to show up differently in your life and in your relationships. Let me know if this helps and how it goes for you. Click below and share a comment.