There’s a saying, if you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there. It’s so important to have an idea of who you want to be, where you want to go, and what you want to do. If you don’t have a clue of either of these, there are plenty of people out there who can fill your time, day, and schedule with dreams of their own.
So, if you want to have a better life, get clear on what you want from it.
It’s not always someone else who stands in your way to getting what you want. Often, it’s you. It’s a lot easier to say no to others when you know what you want for yourself. It is also easier to move stumbling blocks out of your way when you’ve got your eyes set on what you want, a clear goal. When you’re that focused, there’s no stopping you.
One of the tips from my book, Relationship Success Tips: Tips for a Healthy, Loving, Well-Connected Relationship, is: Your thinking—whether positive or negative—will affect and influence your behavior and your relationships with the same results: positive or negative.
An example of this would be thinking you can’t be, do or have something you wish you had. Well guess what? If you think you can’t, chances are you won’t. Change begins in the way you think. Don’t try to tackle everything all at once. Work on one thought, habit, behavior, desire, or challenge at a time. Just one!
Often, people tend to focus on their feelings about something and allow it to deter them. If this is something you’re doing, change what you’re thinking. That’s where your emotions are coming from, your thoughts. That’s why they change so often. Because from one moment to the next, whatever happens or whoever says something, it can cause a shift in what you think, and then draw in your feelings.
When you realize you’re feeling some kind of way and you don’t like it, check your thoughts. If you don’t like them, change them. Think about something else. Your feelings will also change unless there’s some chemical imbalance or something else going on.
Just like when you’re watching something on a TV channel that you’re not interested in. Do you just sit there and watch it anyway or do you change the station? Well, it’s the same thing going on in your head. It’s a channel that makes you feel one way or another. If you like it, leave the channel where it is; but if you don’t, just switch the station. Got it?
This is really a good life changing principle that can help you stay on your path. You see, everybody has their own. You must be clear on yours so that when something or someone, including YOU, get in your way, you know what to do. Change the channel and refocus. One thing is for sure, you can’t blame someone else for your lack of clarity, drive, motivation, or success. That’s giving away too much power and control. Take it back!
It’s easy to get distracted from time to time, no matter what you’re doing; especially when you have a lot on your mind. The purpose of having a goal, dream, mission, or something you’d like to see happen, is so that when you are discouraged, overwhelmed, or have an obstacle in your way, you have something to return to—your goal. Be intentional about what you choose to focus on. It will provide you creative ways to accomplish your mission, and most certainly will help you get out of your own way.
If you want a better life, get clear on what you want from it, because better clarity will most certainly help you have a better life. That’s my wish for you. I’ve helped many others gain clarity with a plan to help them move forward in a direction they desire and feel good about. Reach out below or to the right of this post and connect if I can help you do the same.