How to Connect When You Feel Disconnected

Have you ever felt as if you were just totally out there all alone or like nobody really got you? Or so it seemed.

You want connection with others and to feel like you’re a part of, but for some reason, the pieces of the puzzle just aren’t coming together; there’s some disconnection going on. You know what I mean? It’s like trying to put pieces together that aren’t meant to be together. They just won’t fit; and if you’re determined to force it, the piece can break.

You are always the common denominator in all your relationships. Do a self-check to determine if you feel disconnected from just one, or several relationships. If it’s just one relationship where things aren’t coming together, you may still want to look at it and see what can be done about it; if anything. But if there are other relationships involved, you want to take a serious look at what could possibly be going on; especially since you are involved in each one.

Consider these possibilities:

  • You haven’t been feeling well (physically, mentally, and/or emotionally) and therefore not in the best mood to be around others.
  • Feeling overwhelmed with lots of different things going on in your life.
  • Highly sensitive to the emotions and needs of others.
  • Easily distracted.
  • Not clear on your requirements, needs, and/or wants.
  • Finding it difficult to say NO to others and therefore carrying more than your share of responsibilities.

These are just a few things to look at and think about when you’re feeling like you want to be connected to and with others, but somehow feel like either nobody’s interested, or there is a cut off somewhere. Rather than sitting around waiting on things to change, for someone else to come knocking on your doors, or ringing your phone, here are some things you may want to try, to get some traction going.

Consider these options:

  • Reach out to someone with whom you have an interest, just to show you are sociable.
  • Initiate connection; often others are waiting on you to reach out just as you may be waiting on them.
  • Show yourself to be a friendly, welcoming and inviting person for others to reciprocate.
  • Give what you want to receive (ex: give a hug, receive a hug right back).
  • Clarify your requirements, needs, and wants.
  • Take care of your physical, mental, and emotional well-being so that you don’t give off signals of non-interest and keep others at bay.
  • Manage your stress levels and focus on what’s important to you.

Remember, if you’re wanting others to reach out to you, chances are they may be wanting you to reach out to them as well. Someone has to break the ice and initiate some form of contact in order to get connected; because when you feel connected to and with others around you, it has a way of encouraging and empowering you to be, do, and have your best.

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