So you want to have a happy relationship, huh? Who doesn’t? If you ask anyone what do they want when it comes to their relationship, you’ll hear the words, “I just want to be happy”. Isn’t that true for most, if not all of us? Of course, it is!

The problem with the statement though is that people usually can’t tell you what it is that would make them happy. Well, guess what? If you don’t know what will make you happy, it’s going to be a guessing game for anyone else.

Consider these suggestions for having a happy relationship:

BE a happy individual. That’s right. Be happy yourself. If both you and your mate are unhappy, the relationship is bound to be as well. It’s an extension or mirror reflection of the two of you. While you have no control over the other person, you do have control over you and how you feel. And in turn, it will show up somehow in the way you guys connect with each other; or not. It begins with you, so if you want to have a happy relationship, be sure to bring it yourself!

Pay attention to what you watch, read, listen to, and who you hang around. These are open gates that affect the way you think and how you feel. You may not be able to control what you see and hear in your environment by others, but you do have total control over what happens with it once entering your eyes and ears. It’s your choice. Sometimes what you see and hear can be disturbing and change the mood you’re in, as well as who you’re with; positively and/or negatively. Choose a positive, happy outcome.

Create the type of environment you want around you. If you like an environment that’s surrounded by peace and harmony, positive energy, and uplifting (especially when you don’t feel it, but want it); put things in place around you that exudes this. Examples of this could be something like a live or artificial green plant; soft inspiring music; some type of waterfall; beautiful pictures; bookshelf with uplifting motivational books to read, etc. You get the picture, right?! Now since you know you, and what you like that makes you feel good and happy, create your environment to express and reflect just that.

You do have the power to create the relationship you desire. Now take that power and enforce it all around you, beginning from within, so that it can exude without.