Have you ever felt like you just wanted to be loved on, cared for, and just paid attention to? I know, I get it. There are days when you just want to feel like somebody cares, right?! Well, guess where that all begins? You know where I’m going, don’t you?

It all begins with you! You must show up for yourself. How does hearing that feel? Can you honestly say that you are showing up for yourself the same way you want others to show up for you? Or maybe, because you’re showing up for everybody else, you’re feeling like you need someone to do for you what you are doing for others. It doesn’t work that way.

Have you heard the saying, we teach people how to treat us? It’s so true. Often, the very reason people don’t give you the attention you want from them is because they see you always doing for others. To them, it looks like you’re alright; like you’re doing so well that you don’t need any help from anyone. You know that’s not the case, but that’s how it’s showing up for others. Everybody knows they can call on you. They can count on you when they can’t count on anyone else. While you’re like, does anyone even see me; I want to be loved on too. I get it, I really do!

The thing is, you must show up for your own self. Just in case nobody is seeing you the way you want to be seen, to get the help you want for you, you need to be there for you. Show up for you! If you don’t, you can see that nobody else will, and truth be told, you really can’t blame or fault them. It’s your responsibility to take care of your own needs. People will see the way you do this and admire you and maybe even ask how you do it, because they never learned how to do it.

Can you do that? Even if you take small baby steps in doing something for yourself that brings you joy and makes you feel good in some way, it’s a start. Can you do that? If you can, go ahead and do it, then reach out to me and let me know what you did and how it made you feel to do it. I’ll be waiting!

By the way, if you haven’t seen or listened to the video I recorded, take a few minutes to do that right now and let me know what you think by replying below. It has some more good stuff in there to help you have better relationships with others, beginning with yourself first.

Here’s the link: workwithcoachbarbara.com/freegift 

Until the next time!

Barbara