We have all heard the term “live your best life”, right? I don’t know who first coined the term, but it’s spoken of very often. It has really become quite a cliché. What is meant by live your best life could mean one thing to one person and something totally different to another.
What does the term live your best life mean to you? Think about that for a moment. Are you living your best life? What makes it your best? And what are you comparing it to, to make it your best?
When it comes to living your own life so many others are involved. The decisions you make cause you to consider the major players in your life. What will they think? How will they feel? What will they say?
At what point in your life do you get to live your life for you? When?
Consider this. All the major players are out of the picture. You no longer need to think about anyone else before deciding on your own what you want to do. You can just make the decision and then do it. How does that feel? What would you do? Would you be lost in making your own choice for you?
I’m suggesting that you “Start Living Your Life”.
Stop blaming others for where you are, what you do, and the reasoning behind it all. These are your choices. This is your power. Stop giving it away.
Decide today to take a new look at your life and choose for you. Living your life isn’t something you do one day and somebody else does it the next. It’s something you make the conscious choice to do and then you just do it.
For example, I’m not talking about sitting at a red light and you just decide you want to go and then just go without any thought or consideration of your surroundings, environment, or other vehicles around you. In this instance, living your life would be sitting in your automobile, listening to what you want, tuned in to your own (mental and emotional) station, sitting erect or leaning back (while paying attention), looking in the direction you’re headed with your mind focused on what’s important to you, not the person to your side, in front or behind. This is living your life.
Take a snapshot picture of your life where it is right now. How do you like the picture? Are you pleased? You know how someone takes a photo of you and then share it with you? What do you think when you look at the picture? That color doesn’t look good on me. My mascara is smudged. My necklace is crooked. A hair is out of place. The snapshot is the way it is. There’s no changing this finished product. It is what it is. You get what you get.
Unlike the example just given about the photo, you’re now taking a snapshot of your life, where it is right now, in this moment. Go ahead, take the picture (a mental and emotional snap shot).
What are you thinking? What would you change about the photo? Why would you make that change?
Make a conscious choice to look at your life as it is right now and decide for your own self to live it. Live it for you. What would you choose to do that’s different from what you’ve been doing? How would that make you feel? Start living your life. You’re the only one who can do you. No one else should have that responsibility; nor should you take on living someone else’s life. They’ve been given theirs; you’ve been given yours. Live it!
Living your life is something you choose to do daily. Let’s look at some examples of what that might look like. When you’re living your life, you could choose to:
- Live where you want.
- Eat what you want.
- Pick your favorite color.
- Shop, or not.
- Go where you want to go.
- Do what you want to do.
- Live how you want to live.
- Hang around who you want to be around.
- Travel, or not.
- Have a pet, or not.
These are all choices people make on a daily basis. Not everyone makes the same choices for the same reasons. Not everyone looks the same. We were born different. Learn who you are and be that person. Get to know like and trust you. The decisions you make are for you. You must answer to and for you.
The same way you make your choices for your own reasons, you must also accept consequences for these same choices. The blame can’t be put off on anyone else.
Time out for blaming mom and dad for what they did or did not do. What are you doing now? Time out for making excuses for where you are in life because of what happened to you. What are YOU now doing to you? Who gets to pay for that charge?
Choices may have been taken away from you before. You cannot do anything about the past. It cannot be undone or changed in any way; other than the way you choose to think about it. You can rewrite it. You can create a whole new story, tailor made for you. Or, you can accept what was, what is, and then choose to live it your way moving forward.
It’s about living your life. Living means to continue doing it day after day after day after day. That’s living it. Live your life like it’s yours. If you’ve given ownership to someone else, take it back. It’s yours. When it’s all said and done, in the end, you won’t have the luxury of putting someone else in place to answer for you. You must do this for yourself. Why not begin now?
Start Living YOUR Life!