To be united in a relationship is for two people to be joined together as one; a team, connected for a purpose. This is two people who have decided to be together for a common reason. They are united. Anything other than this is division, which will be the fall of any couple.
Two people connected with the understanding of who they are as individuals, and clear on the reason they are together as a couple, has a much better chance of having a lasting relationship, than two people who don’t. That’s being united.
If a couple is divided, it’s because there is something going on within one or both individuals. This problem deepens if there is no acknowledgement of the problem; therefore, no resolution of it either. This also begins the division of the couple and eventually the fall of the relationship.
It is important for couples to understand that each person has their own individual thoughts, feelings, opinions, goals, dreams and visions for their own life. AND, just because they connect as a couple, this doesn’t necessarily change; but may need some tweaking to accommodate another person. If not, you set yourself up for failure.
Couples know readily, all too easy, how to become divided. Not much help is needed there. So, for that reason, the focus here is on being united, and getting you back to what drew you together initially.
How can a couple become united? To become united with another person, you must first be united with yourself. Are you saying one thing and doing something totally different? If so, you can begin by getting in alignment with yourself. This will help you to align and unite with your partner. Start there.
Always be quick and willing to do a self-check when things are off, or you sense something is not aligned, right, or not how you’d like it to be. Don’t look for the other person to always be good, right, forgiving and understanding if you aren’t. This breeds division. Start with yourself. This encourages unity and peace within the relationship.
Remember, your relationship reflects you in some way; look closely enough to determine how, and decide if that’s okay with you. Be careful to not be in denial when you look. Be open to what’s true and real. You can’t expect for your partner to be if you aren’t.
The best relationship with someone else begins with having the best possible relationship you can with yourself first. How you treat you will be the example of how others are to treat you. Unite with that!
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