Notice your mood and where it’s coming from, rather than spreading more of the same. If you’re not aware of your own “stuff”, and put it in check, it’s going to bleed over into your relationship in some way.
Whenever things are not going the way you’d like for them to go in your life, it’s easy to look around for someone to blame and then leave it with them. But often, there is a need to look a little deeper at yourself in order to really get a glimpse of what could possibly be going on. It’s not until then that you can actually see how you may indeed be contributing to some of the not-so-good in your life.
If you can think of things being better in your life than they are, then you can also think of ways you may be able to contribute to them being better. Something so simple as noticing what and how you’re feeling and where it may have come from in order for you to correct it in some way, is a way of shifting things. Because if you don’t, you can perpetuate the same thing showing up in others.
If you don’t like the way someone responds to you, make sure that you haven’t spread something you didn’t like within your own self. You are the best person to put you in check. It doesn’t feel good when someone else does it to or for you. Try to stay in the here and now of what’s going on with you to be able to come from a pure space (as pure as you possibly can anyway).
Things can be better for you when you are better for and towards you. Start there. Be and do the best you can. It helps to understand where the other person in your relationship may be coming from. It all starts with you.
In processing and working through this, don’t hesitate to reach out if I can be of service.